Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Most Important Thing

Relationships are the most important things in life. I’ve been back for 3 weeks and after spending time with family and friends in person (and over the phone), I really see how important relationships are in life.

We all of course know this; but sometimes need to say it out loud (or on a blog) to properly appreciate the fact. Coming back home after 3 years is strange/confusing/difficult because you drop down in a place that looks, sounds, and smells familiar, but feels a bit off. You turn around and see your old life and you think, “that was me then”, and then you look at yourself now and think, “this is who I’ve become since then”, and then you try to connect the lines to figure out how those two go together.

And while you’re thinking about that, your friend from college calls you up and you suddenly realize how despite all the adventures between then and now, you are still you and your friend is still your friend and you can click back together very easily and have a good laugh. THEN, you think, “the people in my life—those souls I love—give so much meaning to my life and they make sense of things no matter where I am”.

And finally you eat some homemade cookies you made with your sister and smile.

Friday, December 05, 2008

Rivendell / la casa de mi hermana

I’m in transition; I’ve come home from my Japan, English teaching life and I’m getting ready for my New York City, voice acting/other creative ventures life. I’m putting together myself using the pre-Japan pieces and the new parts I picked up in the Far East. This is honestly a resting time, a reflecting time, and a time to spend with my family and friends who I was away from for so long.

I couldn’t ask for a better place to do this than my sister’s home in North Carolina. Julie and her husband live in a beautiful, comfortable house filled with entertainment and good food. Their TV—which is the size of my old car—complete with a Wii and expansive game library ensure I’m never bored. I sleep in a big nice bed, get tasty meals, and just enjoy a relaxed life here. It’s wonderful.

All this reminds me of J.R.R. Tolkien’s Rivendell—the elven stronghold and rest stop in both The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings. Tolkien wrote exciting stories filled with dangerous and horrible places (goblin-filled mountain caves, spider-invested forests) but he also gave the characters, and the reader, resting points along the way where safety and comfort were found. These points in their journey were times to renew their physical and emotion strength and also prepare them for the trials ahead. Rivendell is an enchanted outpost for the immortal Elves and thus is a place for songs, feasts, and safety. Every morning when I wake up at Julie’s house, I feel like I’m in Rivendell.

When I look at my life, I see a lot of good memories and success from Japan…and I also see a lot of potential and excitement from a future in NYC. But I’m not sure how those two parts fit together…because right now I really don’t know how to get to New York City, or how to get a job there, or anything! I’m like Frodo saying, “I’ll go to Mordor, but I don’t know the way…so Elrond, could you please let me crash at yours until I get my fellowship together?”

Haha, I love LOTR. Anyway, I think you understand what I’m trying to say. The point is: THANK YOU Julie and Paul for letting me stay here! After being away for so long, I’m so happy to have this time together.

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Thanksgiving with the family

After 3 long years of no Thanksgivings, I’ve finally come home and have had a wonderful feast. おいしかったです! It was delicious!

My mom and sister are amazing when it comes to cooking. They know how to plan out and prepare a fantastic meal. I usually just jump around the kitchen saying, “I’m hungry! When it is gonna be ready?!” Then they give me a job like making “pigs in a blanket” that is simple and occupies my time. Pigs in a blanket are little sausages wrapped up in yummy croissant bread and it’s the only thing I’ve ever made for Thanksgiving. This task suits me fine cause it requires a little bit of food-geometry (measuring out a balanced number of sausages to croissant dough and making sure everything is wrapped up tight) and when they are done I can eat as many as I want!

I’m so happy to be back home. Not just for the piggies, but also because of the comfort and joy of being back with family. Right now I’m chilling at my sister’s house and enjoying her Nintendo Wii (a little bit of Japan) and just getting myself together for the future.

I know some of you may be concerned about the future of the JaBlog since my Japan adventure is over. There are so many blogs out there in the void of cyberspace that have been left to drift and remain forever un-updated. But I assure you that my blog will continue…but probably with a title change. Stay tuned for the unfolding stories :)


Tuesday, November 25, 2008

America, the return

I’m sitting at my parent’s house eating Cinnamon Toast Crunch and watching Sponge Bob Square Pants. Holy cow, I’m back home.

I always knew this day would come…I mentioned it in my very first blog post a thousand years ago…but now that’s it’s here and I’m back and trying to fall back into the life I left, it all feels very weird.

I need time to process it all…the readjustment period it going to be interesting. There are loads of family and friends to see and hug…and lots of food I want to eat. I’m so happy I’ve returned at the holiday season so accomplishing both of these things is made easier.

I’m happy to be back. And ready for the next adventure.

Friday, November 21, 2008

Tokyo, Yoyogi, Shibuya, Ginza

The final series of photos from Tokyo.

"Harajuku folks" in Yoyogi Park

Purikura of me and Sheena

Shibuya at dusk

Sushi in Ginza

Tokyo skyline near the Imperial Palace

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Tokyo, Asakusa

I visited Asakusa the other day to see a little bit of "old Japan" within modern Tokyo. The temple there is the main attraction with many tourists and pilgrims thronging its gates and grounds.


Entrance into Senso-ji

Five story pagoda

Lanterns and entrance way
Patrons and incense

Self-portrait

Dusk at the temple

Monday, November 17, 2008

Tokyo, Buddha, me and Sheena

Here are a few photos I took yesterday when Sheena and I visited Kamakura. Enjoy.


Big Buddha


Sheena and Justin

Tourists

Incense smoke

Incense burner and light

Us chilling out

Friday, November 14, 2008

I Want it That Way

I'm finished with work! I have free time! I made a video to entertain you!

Tuesday, November 04, 2008

For my students

To watch and cry a little as we say good bye...

:)

Your Last Chance!

So I'm finding it hard to manage to say good bye to everyone since I never planned ONE BIG FAREWELL PARTY event (instead I had lots of little ones). Thus, I'm giving everyone 2 more opportunities to say sayonara before I leave Oita-ken.


1. Friday, November 7th, 6pm - midnight, Beppu downtown. I'll be out having dinner and then a drink or two. Anyone welcome to join!


2. Saturday, November 8th, 1pm - 2pm, Beppu Kitahama bus stop (in front of Starbucks). This is where I ride off into the sunset. Final farewells, tears, hugs, and promises to never forget each other are welcome.

Friday, October 24, 2008

Reflections on packing

I’m in the process of going through all the stuff I’ve collected over the past few years and deciding on the very few items that I’m keeping. Transporting things back to America is going to be expensive and a hassle, so I’m really being vicious about the selection and chucking out A LOT of stuff (or giving the good stuff away to folks around here).

I can’t believe how many “memories”—in the forms of letters, pictures, notes, etc., I have tucked away in boxes and folders and drawers. Cleaning out and packing is taking forever because every 5 minutes I’m stopping to read something and drift off for a while to another time and place. Calendar books are especially powerful because I can see the dates of birthdays, parties, and events and remember who I was then, what I was doing, and what I was planning.

Heaven forbid I find an old love note…those launch me into a kaleidoscope of sensations and a feeling of forgotten joy and a little sadness. So much has happened in 3 years…I have become a different person in many ways…all of them positive.

A few more adventures await…and one more week of work. I’m going to miss my students do much!!!

Friday, October 17, 2008

Departure!


DundundaDUN! I’m leaving Japan!!

Holy geisha ninjas! Yes, after 3 years and 3 months, I’m counting down the days until I depart these fair shores and head back to America. Of course my head and heart are full of emotions and thoughts and dreams and memories (more related blog entries to come), but today’s post is just to let folks know my plans for the next month:

Saturday, November 8th: Depart Beppu from the Starbucks/Kitahama bus stop (where I’ve said a lot of good byes). Please come down if you need to confess your secret and undying love before I board the bus. I’ll be heading to Fukuoka next!

Monday, November 10th: Depart Fukuoka for Tokyo!

Monday, November 24th: Depart Tokyo for America.

I only have 2 more weeks of work left—totally crazy, my English teaching career is about to finish! All the insane and revolutionary lessons plans I’ve always been dreaming about but always too timid to do are on the board for these two weeks. Going out with a bang!

Wednesday, October 01, 2008

Monster Burger!

Ask any Japanese person, “What is a famous food in America?” and I bet 4 out of 5 times you’ll get, “hamburger” as the answer. There is this idea in Japan that Americans eat massive burgers as a part of our national diet. I guess there is some truth to this…but I must say that the biggest burger I’ve ever eaten was in Japan.

Behold the Yufuin Burger!

Yufuin is a cute little mountain town in Oita-ken that has grown considerably as a popular tourist destination in recent years. The main street is filled with folks on the weekends and like all towns/cities in Japan, Yufuin has its own famous food items that MUST be eaten when you visit. Up until recently, I think the most popular confectionary was the roll cake, but as times move forward, new items are popping up. The massive Yufuin burger is one of these and let me tell you, it is delicious.

I went to Yufuin with two of my students, Chi and Miyo, on a quest to eat the Yufuin burger. We waded through the crowds of people and found the burger joint where the man working there didn’t want to give us 3 of the big size burgers. “Women can’t eat a whole one!” he said, “The guy, sure, but maybe you ladies should get the smaller sized one.”

In the end, we got two special big ones and one medium (which was still large). We complimented the meal with bottles of coke (just like an American family would) and ate ourselves silly. Hooray!

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Shikoku Trip

Here is a quick video about my recent trip to Shikoku.

Thursday, September 04, 2008

Funny Sign

I came across this sign in a park and thought the picture was amusing. The Japanese says, “Please punt your doggie’s poopy with the nearest available hockey stick. Thank you!”

Of course, I could have mistaken a few of the kanji characters.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Reluctant Ride


The rain fell in sporadic bursts as the car sped down the highway in silence. I sat in the backseat calculating how much longer it would be until we reached the city.

“How many times have you done this?” asked one of the men in front. His uniform identified him as some kind of electrical engineer and his question came with a cloud of cigarette smoke that hovered in the closed car air.

“This is my second time hitch hiking to Fukuoka,” I said in a shallow breath trying to spare my lungs the poisonous air. “But I went on a week long hitch hike trip over Golden Week.”

A gruff acknowledgement sound was his only response and then smoky silence fell over the car once more.

There were four of us in the company car…three Japanese engineers, each with his own smoking cigarette, and me, a foolish foreigner out for another hitch hike (why pay for the train when the car ride is free?). I’d met them in Beppu on a rainy Friday evening when drivers were few. I’d talked to several prospects, but none were heading exactly to my destination and I was on the verge of giving up when suddenly their group walked by and casually said, “Okay, let’s go.”

I got in the car and initiated some polite introductory conversation only to be met with minimum responses. I quickly realized they were in typical Japanese working man mode: sit, smoke, sleep…do not speak. The man who had invited me into the car asked me a few questions, but soon retreated into his solitary calm. Being accustomed to this type of behavior, I opted to join them and found myself asleep along with the 2 other passengers. I will admit that just before I drifted off to sleep I thought, “I’m riding at night in a rain storm with 3 strange men. No one knows where I am and they could be going anywhere. I better be ready to aim for the eyes and groin.”

We were silent all the way into the city center where upon the “talkative” man said “Is anywhere okay to drop you off?” I told them, “Sure, I can find my way” and was released near the area I wanted to be in.

We parted ways after a 2 hour car ride with me saying, “Thank you so much! Please have a good night!” and them saying a flat, “OK.”

Out of the dozens of rides I’ve taken, this one was the most uncomfortable…but has not deterred me from hitch hiking in Japan. I still love the experience of meeting random people on the road and taking a ride in their car. It’s the explorer part of me getting fed…and writer part of me getting new material. And the cheapskate part of me saving a couple thousand yen.

Friday, August 15, 2008

This inspired me!

This video is an amazing experience...and demonstrates a key point in life: dancing is AWESOME and FUN and makes you feel good (and possibly can unite the world).

Enjoy it! And travel!

Saturday, August 09, 2008

Paper companion

(a picture from my day)

I spent an entire day reading a novel. This is something I never do. I like to savor novels…like really good pudding…taking small bites and putting down the spoon/novel before moving on to the next taste. The story becomes a companion to my life and I think about the characters and themes over the course of weeks sometimes. It’s a relaxing and engrossing way to experience a really good book because your moving and changing life parallel the moving and changing story and thus you’re able to deal with the characters in different moods and mindsets. Also, since I live in a place where English books can be in short supply, it’s a great way to ration them.

My day started off by the sea…a place I naturally seek out in summer. I sat on the familiar giant concrete barriers found all over the Japanese coast and read in the shade while little adorable kids screamed in the water. I then moved on to a fishing port where dozens of small boats were docked and creaked in the waves. Next was the McDonald’s parking lot where I began to think, “This is weird…it’s Saturday evening and I’m reading a book in my car in a parking lot.” Finally I ended inside the McDonald’s…or rather, on the second floor porch overlooking the mountains and coast line of Beppu…where young people chatted and smoked around me as I dug into the final chapters of the book.


I read from about 11am to 11pm with breaks scattered throughout for food, thoughts, and naps. I covered hundreds of pages in a day completely filled with lovely scenery, a compelling story, and fast food. I feel calm and inspired now…having spent the day in inward communing and peace.

And I also feel really ready for my crazy week in Tokyo next week when I finally get some vacation time!!! Woot woot! Party time, yo! ;)

Thursday, July 31, 2008

Another series of good byes

Her black dress swishes back and forth as she walks away down the street. The neon lights and blinking signs buzzing around her gradually shrinking form. I stand and watch and think, “This is the last time I will see her…maybe forever.” The street is so familiar…filled with memories of the past year…and now there’s one more new memory…the vision of a friend walking away after we said good bye.

I always look back when say good bye to someone…it’s just my nature. A lot of my last memories of friends are of them walking away. Part of me hopes the other person will look back and smile one more time…making eye contact and waving…I also like to watch them for as long as I can…making as much of a final memory as I possible.

Now that July has come and gone, another load of friends and acquaintances have moved on from Japan. It’s the big yearly cycle…July is a time for farewells and the turning of another page in the book of life. Right now I’m a bit numb to it…this being the 4th time I’ve said a big sayonara to close friends. It’s hard and makes you scroll through your cell phone address book taking stock of numbers you’ll never call again. Some entries get deleted…a lot of them remain…as a last standing monument to the good times you shared.

One of my friends who left, Selena, told me, “Don’t be sad it’s ending, be happy it happened.” Her words are wise and true…but it still doesn’t help Starbuck seem any less empty on a Friday afternoon when you’re supposed to be sharing coffee and making fun of ridiculous Japanese outfits.

The people around you make your world…and my world has just been changed dramatically. It’s not over…it’s not finished…it’s taking on a different form. I’m not sure what course my life will take in the coming months…but I will carry my memories with me as comforts and reminders of the good times I’ve had, and are sure to have again.

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

3 Years in Japan!

Today is my three year anniversary of being in Japan. On this day 3 years ago, I was arriving in Tokyo with a massive group of other foreigners and jumping head first into the world of Japan. Let’s look back at some old photos from that day…

First meal (picture is blurry to simulate how my jet-lagged eyes were seeing things in reality). I had NO IDEA what was going on in the restaurant that myself and a group of JETs stumbled into shortly after arriving in Shinjuku. I ordered this by pointing at a picture on the menu. It's some kind of sushi, but I'm not exactly sure what it’s called…haven’t eaten it since.

First view of Tokyo! A typhoon was on the way! Ominous beginnings…

First new friends. This is the opening ceremony for the new JETs and the two girls in front are Ata and Nicky (from New Zealand). We became instant friends! Seating around and behind them are a mix of other Oita-ken JETs and in the back is my dear friend, Betsy, who is a Chapel Hill alum like me. All of them are GONE…having departed from Japan over the past 2 years. Seeing this photo brings back a flood of memories.

First trash can! The loveable character Domo-kun in trashcan form…the first of many things that shouldn’t be, but unavoidably are, cute in Japan.

As I sit here today and think back on where I started from, I’m happy to say that my experiences in Japan have made me a better human being. I’ve grown up a lot over the past 3 years and become more positive, more independent, more patient, and surer of who I am and where I’m going. I also have better hair.